Father and Son love stories
- Father's Love
An 80-year-old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 year’s old highly educated son.
Suddenly a crow perched on their window.
The Father asked his Son, “What is this?”
The Son replied, “It is a crow”.
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What is this?”
The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”.
After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,
What is this?”
At this time some expression of irritation was felt in Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow, a crow”.
A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, “What is this?”
This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’.
Are you not able to understand this?”
A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:-
“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times.
I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child”.
While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.
From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.
They have always showered their selfless love on me.
"They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".
TIPS TO BUILD A FATHER AND SON RELATIONSHIP
1. Develop Common Interests
Doing something that you both love and enjoy will help the relationship to grow. Take some time to get to know each other and discover which activities you could enjoy together. These activities can become great bonding sessions.
2. Do Something Active and Fun
Boys like to be active, and sometimes they also want to get a little bit rough. There are a few activities that can be fun and rough, but also safe. Some suggestions would be paintball, playing football or wrestling in the backyard, ice hockey, or even going to the gym together. You both might get a bit competitive, but a little bit of competition in life can be healthy.
3. Listen to Each Other
You’re not going to fully understand each other if you do not listen to each other. Parents especially have a knack for listening to the beginning of the story, then jumping in to finish the rest. Children are professionals at switching off when their parents start talking to them. Skip all of this and just take time to really listen to each other.
4. Do Not Force Face-to-Face Conversation
If a guy is not ready to talk, do not force a conversation. Instead, engage in casual conversation over a project or an activity together. Let your son know that you are always available to talk about anything. Give him that affirmation that you are there for him.5. But also make One on One Time
No distractions. Your son must be your focus during this time. This will convey to him that you want to get to know him personally and that you really care about him.
6. Do Not Be Afraid of the Necessary Talks
This includes talks about behaviour, performance, and relationships. Be open and honest. They need these talks to teach them and help them develop better attitudes in general. It might be awkward or taken negatively at first, but it will strengthen your relationship in the long run.
7. Take on a Big Project Together
Whether it’s fixing up a car or building a treehouse, take on something big and meaningful together. Taking on a bigger than life project will give you memories that you will always treasure and create a bond that will last.
8. Let Them Know about Their Strengths
With so many judgments being thrown at boys from peers and media, it is nice to go home to a place where you are appreciated for your strengths. Show your approval of the things that they are able to do and try their best to succeed at. Celebrate their accomplishments. Constant reinforcement and encouragement builds a relationship and can help them to ignore the negativity that they are confronted with daily.
9. Set Some Boundaries
Rules and boundaries are important for any good thing in life. Being a relaxed parent and acting more like their friend will hurt your relationship more than help to improve it. Clearly set out to your son what is expected of him and what the punishments are for disobeying these rules.
10. Calmly Confront their Mistakes
Do not start screaming. Explain why you are disappointed, ask for their side of the story, and listen to them. You need a calm approach when confronting them and a firm approach when disciplining them. Discipline is for their own good and helps them. Also, it is an option to reward them for good behaviour.
11. Be Involved and Show Up
This goes for events and life in general. Statistics show that fathers are less present than ever. Be present in his life. Arrive for sports matches or concert performances or prize giving. Making him a priority and being involved in his life is sure to strengthen your bond.
12. Problem? Solve it Together
Your son will come to you with problems because he trusts you and thinks you have the ability to help him solve them. Basically, be there to help him with his troubles and problems. Show him that he is not alone in this and that you are there for him.
13. Realize that You Influence Him
This is probably one of the most important things. He looks up to you. You are his role model. Therefore, you need to lead by example. Your son learns by watching you. If you realize and understand how much you influence him, you will be able to take it more seriously and establish a strong and meaningful relationship.
Fathers who focus on their sons and spend time with them develop wonderful relationships and help them to become the best example of a man that they can be and achieve their full potential.
My Untold Story With My Father
I can’t mention all the instances when I felt how blessed I am to have him in my life :)
But, here are some which come to my mind right after seeing this question :
1. When I was at school and had my exams-
Dad - Son, you should sleep now. It’s late and important for you to take rest during your exams.
Me - No, Dad. There’s a lot that I need to study/revise. I will have to study for an hour more.
Dad - It doesn’t matter, son. You don’t have to be the topper all the time. You should take rest, that is more important.
Me - Okay! Let me just study for half an hour more.
Dad - Okay! I will stay awake until you finish studying.
2. When he used to drop me to the 10th board exams venue -
Me - Dad. You may be late to the office. I will take an auto to the exam venue.
Dad- No, I will drop you in the car. I will go to the office after dropping you.
Me- Okay, Dad. Bless me for the exam. I am going inside.
Dad - Don’t discuss answers with your friends after the exam gets over.
Tell me what all do you want to eat and drink when you get back. I will make sure everything is there with me the moment you come out.
All the best!
Me - I want XYZ milkshake and ABC chocolate. Thank you, Dad.
3. When I used to go back home during semester-end breaks-
Dad - Son, when will you come? Have you fixed the dates? You can book the tickets.
Me - Okay, Dad. I will check the availability of the trains.
Dad - No, come in flight. You’ll have to spend so much time in the train. It’ll be uncomfortable.
Me- I think I can manage to come, Dad. Flight tickets might be very expensive.
Dad- That’s okay, you don’t come home every day. Come happily and comfortably.
4. Whenever he used to take me shopping
Dad- Son, see I like this. This will look really good on you Do you like it?
Me - I am not sure. The other one looks better to me. I don’t know.
Dad - Let’s take both of them.
Me - No, it’ll be very expensive. Let me choose one.
Dad - No, No. We’re buying both.
Me - Dad, let’s see something for you.
Dad- No, I have many. I don’t think I need anything at this time.
Whenever I buy something for him
Dad- Why did you buy such expensive stuff, Son?
Me- Because I thought it’d look good on you and you’ll like them.
Dad- I like them :)
5. When he takes me for lunch/dinner
Dad - the Son, see what’d you like to order.
Me - Okay! I would like to have XYZ and blah blah. How about you, Dad?
Dad- Whatever you are having.
6. Whenever I visit home
Me - Oh, wow. The fridge has all my favourite drinks, fruits and sweets.
Mom - yes, Dad got everything yesterday. He went so far as to get your favourite sweets.
Me - Yaaay!
I finish everything in a day or two and everything is found in the fridge again :D
7. When I was in college
Dad- Dad, how much money do you have now?
Me - I have 5,000 INR.
Dad- Okay, I will send you 5,000 INR tonight.
Me- I don’t need so much. Don’t send so much. I will tell you when I need them.
Dad - Okay. Take care.
After 5 mins, I call him.
Me - Dad, what is this? Why did you transfer 10,000 rupees to my account?
Papa - You will need it for some of the other thing, Son. Don’t worry. Take fruits, dry fruits and juices every day. Spend them wherever you think they should be spent.
I’m sure my dad is like every other dad in the world :)
A father and his son share a one in a million connection for many reasons. This could be due to the fact that the son carries the family name further or because the father has someone with whom he can share his daily activities. Whatever may be the reason, the father-son relationship is one of the most fascinating relationships, and with proper nurturing, the bond can become eternal. Traditionally, fathers have been believed to be more close to their daughters. However, the father-son equation is always considered to be friendlier and more comfortable than the equation a father shares with his daughter.Perhaps not surprisingly, the current shift that we are undergoing in the 21st century finds the father figure moving back to a more nurturing role, which is reflective of a society that has increased expectations that fathers should be more loving and involved in the raising of their children than their own fathers were. This renewal of the nurturing father-son relationship is known as the Theory of Generative Fatherhood, which holds that fathers should be demonstrably affectionate toward their children on a daily basis. The result of this shift, ideally, is that the modern father-son relationship should be closer, more satisfying and more nurturing than it was in the previous generation.“I knew my father had done the best he could, and I had no regrets about the way I'd turned out. Regrets about the journey, maybe, but not the destination.”
An 80-year-old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 year’s old highly educated son.
Suddenly a crow perched on their window.
The Father asked his Son, “What is this?”
The Son replied, “It is a crow”.
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What is this?”
The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”.
After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,
What is this?”
At this time some expression of irritation was felt in Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow, a crow”.
A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, “What is this?”
This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’.
Are you not able to understand this?”
A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:-
“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times.
I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child”.
While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.
From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.
They have always showered their selfless love on me.
"They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".
TIPS TO BUILD A FATHER AND SON RELATIONSHIP
1. Develop Common Interests
Doing something that you both love and enjoy will help the relationship to grow. Take some time to get to know each other and discover which activities you could enjoy together. These activities can become great bonding sessions.
2. Do Something Active and Fun
Boys like to be active, and sometimes they also want to get a little bit rough. There are a few activities that can be fun and rough, but also safe. Some suggestions would be paintball, playing football or wrestling in the backyard, ice hockey, or even going to the gym together. You both might get a bit competitive, but a little bit of competition in life can be healthy.
3. Listen to Each Other
You’re not going to fully understand each other if you do not listen to each other. Parents especially have a knack for listening to the beginning of the story, then jumping in to finish the rest. Children are professionals at switching off when their parents start talking to them. Skip all of this and just take time to really listen to each other.
4. Do Not Force Face-to-Face Conversation
If a guy is not ready to talk, do not force a conversation. Instead, engage in casual conversation over a project or an activity together. Let your son know that you are always available to talk about anything. Give him that affirmation that you are there for him.
5. But also make One on One Time
No distractions. Your son must be your focus during this time. This will convey to him that you want to get to know him personally and that you really care about him.
6. Do Not Be Afraid of the Necessary Talks
This includes talks about behaviour, performance, and relationships. Be open and honest. They need these talks to teach them and help them develop better attitudes in general. It might be awkward or taken negatively at first, but it will strengthen your relationship in the long run.
7. Take on a Big Project Together
Whether it’s fixing up a car or building a treehouse, take on something big and meaningful together. Taking on a bigger than life project will give you memories that you will always treasure and create a bond that will last.
8. Let Them Know about Their Strengths
With so many judgments being thrown at boys from peers and media, it is nice to go home to a place where you are appreciated for your strengths. Show your approval of the things that they are able to do and try their best to succeed at. Celebrate their accomplishments. Constant reinforcement and encouragement builds a relationship and can help them to ignore the negativity that they are confronted with daily.
9. Set Some Boundaries
Rules and boundaries are important for any good thing in life. Being a relaxed parent and acting more like their friend will hurt your relationship more than help to improve it. Clearly set out to your son what is expected of him and what the punishments are for disobeying these rules.
10. Calmly Confront their Mistakes
Do not start screaming. Explain why you are disappointed, ask for their side of the story, and listen to them. You need a calm approach when confronting them and a firm approach when disciplining them. Discipline is for their own good and helps them. Also, it is an option to reward them for good behaviour.
11. Be Involved and Show Up
This goes for events and life in general. Statistics show that fathers are less present than ever. Be present in his life. Arrive for sports matches or concert performances or prize giving. Making him a priority and being involved in his life is sure to strengthen your bond.
12. Problem? Solve it Together
Your son will come to you with problems because he trusts you and thinks you have the ability to help him solve them. Basically, be there to help him with his troubles and problems. Show him that he is not alone in this and that you are there for him.
13. Realize that You Influence Him
This is probably one of the most important things. He looks up to you. You are his role model. Therefore, you need to lead by example. Your son learns by watching you. If you realize and understand how much you influence him, you will be able to take it more seriously and establish a strong and meaningful relationship.
Fathers who focus on their sons and spend time with them develop wonderful relationships and help them to become the best example of a man that they can be and achieve their full potential.
My Untold Story With My Father
I can’t mention all the instances when I felt how blessed I am to have him in my life :)
But, here are some which come to my mind right after seeing this question :
1. When I was at school and had my exams-
Dad - Son, you should sleep now. It’s late and important for you to take rest during your exams.
Me - No, Dad. There’s a lot that I need to study/revise. I will have to study for an hour more.
Dad - It doesn’t matter, son. You don’t have to be the topper all the time. You should take rest, that is more important.
Me - Okay! Let me just study for half an hour more.
Dad - Okay! I will stay awake until you finish studying.
2. When he used to drop me to the 10th board exams venue -
Me - Dad. You may be late to the office. I will take an auto to the exam venue.
Dad- No, I will drop you in the car. I will go to the office after dropping you.
Me- Okay, Dad. Bless me for the exam. I am going inside.
Dad - Don’t discuss answers with your friends after the exam gets over.
Tell me what all do you want to eat and drink when you get back. I will make sure everything is there with me the moment you come out.
All the best!
Me - I want XYZ milkshake and ABC chocolate. Thank you, Dad.
3. When I used to go back home during semester-end breaks-
Dad - Son, when will you come? Have you fixed the dates? You can book the tickets.
Me - Okay, Dad. I will check the availability of the trains.
Dad - No, come in flight. You’ll have to spend so much time in the train. It’ll be uncomfortable.
Me- I think I can manage to come, Dad. Flight tickets might be very expensive.
Dad- That’s okay, you don’t come home every day. Come happily and comfortably.
4. Whenever he used to take me shopping
Dad- Son, see I like this. This will look really good on you Do you like it?
Me - I am not sure. The other one looks better to me. I don’t know.
Dad - Let’s take both of them.
Me - No, it’ll be very expensive. Let me choose one.
Dad - No, No. We’re buying both.
Me - Dad, let’s see something for you.
Dad- No, I have many. I don’t think I need anything at this time.
Whenever I buy something for him
Dad- Why did you buy such expensive stuff, Son?
Me- Because I thought it’d look good on you and you’ll like them.
Dad- I like them :)
5. When he takes me for lunch/dinner
Dad - the Son, see what’d you like to order.
Me - Okay! I would like to have XYZ and blah blah. How about you, Dad?
Dad- Whatever you are having.
6. Whenever I visit home
Me - Oh, wow. The fridge has all my favourite drinks, fruits and sweets.
Mom - yes, Dad got everything yesterday. He went so far as to get your favourite sweets.
Me - Yaaay!
I finish everything in a day or two and everything is found in the fridge again :D
7. When I was in college
Dad- Dad, how much money do you have now?
Me - I have 5,000 INR.
Dad- Okay, I will send you 5,000 INR tonight.
Me- I don’t need so much. Don’t send so much. I will tell you when I need them.
Dad - Okay. Take care.
After 5 mins, I call him.
Me - Dad, what is this? Why did you transfer 10,000 rupees to my account?
Papa - You will need it for some of the other thing, Son. Don’t worry. Take fruits, dry fruits and juices every day. Spend them wherever you think they should be spent.
I’m sure my dad is like every other dad in the world :)
A father and his son share a one in a million connection for many reasons. This could be due to the fact that the son carries the family name further or because the father has someone with whom he can share his daily activities. Whatever may be the reason, the father-son relationship is one of the most fascinating relationships, and with proper nurturing, the bond can become eternal. Traditionally, fathers have been believed to be more close to their daughters. However, the father-son equation is always considered to be friendlier and more comfortable than the equation a father shares with his daughter.
Perhaps not surprisingly, the current shift that we are undergoing in the 21st century finds the father figure moving back to a more nurturing role, which is reflective of a society that has increased expectations that fathers should be more loving and involved in the raising of their children than their own fathers were. This renewal of the nurturing father-son relationship is known as the Theory of Generative Fatherhood, which holds that fathers should be demonstrably affectionate toward their children on a daily basis. The result of this shift, ideally, is that the modern father-son relationship should be closer, more satisfying and more nurturing than it was in the previous generation.
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